How to approach a woman you never knew before

How can I seduce a nice girl I am starring at in the bar? This is perhaps one of the most frequently asked dating questions and certainly there is no easy answer to this. It all depends on the environment you both happen to be in, other people who may be interfering etc. So it all comes down to your specific situation.

Seduction (meaning attraction) is not about some secret or magic skills that will “make the trick" and make women instantly fall in love. It is a natural consequence from a series of actions and reactions and the only way to be successful in this is to have worked some quality skills which can help you manage each situation accordingly.

Instead of focusing on a fantastic magic trick, let’s get the facts right and get better at seducing women. Here are my top 2 dating tips that all men need to work out to be more successful with their dating efforts.

- Observation

When you are in a bar or other public place, the first thing to do is start observing the women that seem to be alone or seem to be "playing games" with their eyes and smiles. When you do notice some interesting presence in the crowd, start observing what she does or what she talks about with her friend. Also try to notice things like a tattoo, a truly nice piece of jewelry, etc. That should give you plenty of ideas regarding what her immediate interests are. That way when the time is right, you have things to start a chat and gain her interest.

- The big step

Recently I was offering some counseling and advice service to someone who had trouble approaching women (let alone seducing them). The most troublesome of his experiences is when he likes a woman whom he never met before and wants to approach and get to meet with her. It is much easier than most men think, as long as you keep cool, show confidence and read my other blog posts for more advice and tips on how to improve your skills.

Stop thinking about your sexual appetites for a minute and just play it plain and cool. Don't act heavily and do not cause the woman to fall in 2 minutes.

It is as simple as having something to comment on and get yourself up there and make that comment without letting fear or anything else come in your way. Play safe and cool and it all will go well.

And don't get into the disappointing mode if you get rejected. Not every woman is free and up for dating. Gently walk and move on to the next adventure. In the end you have nothing to lose and you may as well never meet that woman ever in your life again.

And make pretty well sure you have some good comment to make, rather than "I love your boobies babe".

Cleverly present your identiry

When the unexpected happens and you notice a girl looking at you - say at a bar, always try to bring up clever answers and tips. Most people admit that the first impression where you get a chance to showcase your identity and most importantly show confidence and be compassionate where possible.
The first thing that pops into the mind is probably a lazy "I'm a rockstar" type of person, but the girl you are trying to get in whatever contact with might be much more clever than you think.
This is your excellent opportunity to show how attractive you can be so don't waste it.

• Try clever things to say
• Show compassion
• Don't be too clever
• Present your personality skills

Ways to improve your love

As mentioned in my previous blog post, mutual respect is a deciding factor in a relationship. Learn how to improve your love with Laura's practical dating and relationships tips.

• Make sure your communications channels are clear and open
• Your woman needs to see in actions that you understand her needs
• Sure there can be problems but try to find the most acceptable solution for you both. Oh and make sure you stick to it
• Care for your woman is not only for her sexual needs but also to understand her feelings and behavior during the time you spend together.
  
• You may find that sometimes she is not up to having sex at random times during the day every day.
• Violence leads to unnecessary and terminal relationship problems which are long-term and almost impossible to achieve. Violence, whether physical, sexual or mental, is very inhumane way for men to show their muscular superiority against unprotected minors.
  

The Most Significant Unhealthy Relationship Sign

When you are in a short relationship with a woman you usually don't bother looking into the "health status" of your relationship with your date. But when thinking of switching your dating to long-term, then there are always things that start to frustrate you and make you feel anything but secure.

Start taking the facts down and start to think long-term as well. Are you prepared to have to live with the problems already experienced with your woman? And if yes, will that be for the rest of your life?

Start thinking about your future as well as this is something very crucial before committing yourself into any long-term relationship.

Mutual Respect

Perhaps the most important factor is respect. If you don't feel you get the respect you deserve then start thinking about your exit strategy.

When there are comments flying around at random times (during arguments or while spending some precious time together) like those that are negative for your professional life or other lifestyle aspiration you have, then it is time to start forgetting about any long-term relationship plans.

From my personal experience and from that of some friends, loss of respect by your woman towards yourself is a sign she does not want to compromise and respect your needs and aspirations apart from doing the homework for you, or anything else she may be claiming.

It is not the end of the world to start thinking negatively and questioning your date's attitude and overall behavior against you.

More success for your dating and relationships

Wondering how to become more successful with women? Success depends on the very specialized task of making sure you are attractive to women and best of all that you can understand their aspirations, way of thinking, their feelings and other stuff

Most males will argue that females are very strange beings with unusual mind-set, but they fail to address the needs of the woman they refer to. They fail to understand her needs, fail to take corrective action, fail to think outside their selfishness. Understanding the other half of your relationship and avoiding to impose your way of thinking into her mentality can dramatically improve your “status” in your woman’s eyes and your relationship will enter a completely new era.

If you feel that this is not something that suits your character or your ego, just stop it right there and avoid driving your relationship in more painful situations for both yourself and your woman. Just be sincere and walk off. Nobody can prove you wrong and most importantly you can focus on things you love most without the disturbance of your relationship.