Wednesday, June 9, 2010

How to approach a woman you never knew before

How can I seduce a nice girl I am starring at in the bar? This is perhaps one of the most frequently asked dating questions and certainly there is no easy answer to this. It all depends on the environment you both happen to be in, other people who may be interfering etc. So it all comes down to your specific situation.

Seduction (meaning attraction) is not about some secret or magic skills that will “make the trick" and make women instantly fall in love. It is a natural consequence from a series of actions and reactions and the only way to be successful in this is to have worked some quality skills which can help you manage each situation accordingly.

Instead of focusing on a fantastic magic trick, let’s get the facts right and get better at seducing women. Here are my top 2 dating tips that all men need to work out to be more successful with their dating efforts.

- Observation

When you are in a bar or other public place, the first thing to do is start observing the women that seem to be alone or seem to be "playing games" with their eyes and smiles. When you do notice some interesting presence in the crowd, start observing what she does or what she talks about with her friend. Also try to notice things like a tattoo, a truly nice piece of jewelry, etc. That should give you plenty of ideas regarding what her immediate interests are. That way when the time is right, you have things to start a chat and gain her interest.

- The big step

Recently I was offering some counseling and advice service to someone who had trouble approaching women (let alone seducing them). The most troublesome of his experiences is when he likes a woman whom he never met before and wants to approach and get to meet with her. It is much easier than most men think, as long as you keep cool, show confidence and read my other blog posts for more advice and tips on how to improve your skills.

Stop thinking about your sexual appetites for a minute and just play it plain and cool. Don't act heavily and do not cause the woman to fall in 2 minutes.

It is as simple as having something to comment on and get yourself up there and make that comment without letting fear or anything else come in your way. Play safe and cool and it all will go well.

And don't get into the disappointing mode if you get rejected. Not every woman is free and up for dating. Gently walk and move on to the next adventure. In the end you have nothing to lose and you may as well never meet that woman ever in your life again.

And make pretty well sure you have some good comment to make, rather than "I love your boobies babe".


  1. clean and to the point - like it. another little quick tip that I give my guy friends is to start with a question. opens up for conversation, shows you're interested in hearing something from the girl, and doesn't automatically come across as a pick-up. However, one word of warning - "Come here often?" Is not a good one to use.

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